It Takes Support: My First Year as a Mom

Marie Dimidova became a mom in January 2025. She doesn’t pretend to have it all figured out, she’s learning as she goes and believes asking for help is care. She writes between work, hot tea and short naps, sharing what worked (and what didn’t) in case it saves another mom a wobble.

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It Takes Support: My First Year as a Mom

I became a mother in January 2025. Since then, I’ve faced a million mysteries, questions, and challenges that come with this new role. Throughout this journey, I felt an overwhelming need for professional guidance from the outside. But where do you find a specialist you truly trust — someone who lives in your city and can help you tomorrow, or even today, when you really need it?

My journey with Sequoia Red began during pregnancy, when the changes in my body sent me searching for answers: why one side of my body aches today and the other did yesterday, why I’m constantly tired, and what I can actually eat for breakfast. During this time, when a small life is growing under your heart, you become especially sensitive to everything you read, and trust in the information you consume becomes crucial. Here, I not only found countless answers in the articles published on the platform, but also discovered things I had never known before.

Then came an entire list of specialists whose support meant so much to me.
Pregnancy yoga — exercising at home can feel terrifying when you’re afraid of harming your baby; this is something that truly requires the attention and expertise of a qualified trainer.
Massage — after a full workday at eight months pregnant, it’s not just your posture that suffers; your whole body begs for relaxation. It’s a wonderful gift to yourself, and one you should allow if you have the chance.

And then there were the questions: Do I need a doula? How should I care for the skin on my belly? Can I use the same cosmetics I used before pregnancy?

In January, my daughter was born. Just a few days later, we realized we needed the help of a breastfeeding consultant. If only I could put into words the level of desperation we felt when the specialist arrived at our home. But after she left, we finally exhaled — and believed that things would soon get better. And they did.

Around the same time, we consulted a physiotherapist to make sure our daughter didn’t have any neck tension affecting feeding. We learned how to do massages, how to help her relax, and at the same time managed colic much more easily thanks to the techniques we were taught. To this day, we visit our specialist every three months — to make sure everything is on track and to learn how to support new developmental milestones.

A few weeks after giving birth, I returned to massage to help my body recover more quickly. At four months postpartum, I found a personal trainer, and those workouts became my little island of personal time.

By six months, we realized that a sleep regression had gifted us sleepless nights. It’s hard to imagine what state we would have been in without the help of a sleep consultant. She helped us establish a routine, teach our baby to fall asleep independently, and fall in love with our evenings again.

Today, my daughter is 11 months old. She goes to daycare, and I’m back at work. We sleep through the night, my baby is growing, and I feel great.

I know our mothers managed without the internet and relied on help from family, friends, and acquaintances. But today, when things feel hard, I choose the support of professionals.
Thank you, Sequoia Red, for making that choice so easy for me.

Please note: This blog article is intended for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. The information provided should not be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your qualified healthcare provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read on this blog.

Takeaways

My First Year as a Mom

The first year of motherhood takes support. Trusted professionals—prenatal yoga, massage, lactation consulting, pediatric physio, personal training, sleep consulting—turned crisis into clarity: less overwhelm, more tools for mom and baby. We’re not meant to do this alone.

What you can do for yourself

Ask for help early and without guilt. Seek reliable information, then take the next concrete step (book lactation, schedule physio, plan a massage, start gentle training). Protect small islands of time that restore your energy.

What your partner can do for you

Agree that seeking help is part of the plan. Share logistics and shifts, support in-home visits (lactation/physio), and protect simple routines that give everyone breathing room. Celebrate the small wins together.